what i understood from your point is that you want me to
let go of whatever expectations i have of him so that i can
determine whether is it real love.
once i have done so, i go confess to him because confession
allows me to know if he likes me back. whereas keeping silent about
it will not get me out of the agony.
am i right to interprete it like this?
As to whether he loves u or not is not important. What matters is
whether u are being love, loving - that makes all the difference.
As for expecttions - by that I meant many of us have these
conditionings, eg, what love shouls be, what a guy should be, what
a man is ,what a woman is, what successs is ..... one can go on.
However, as long as we are dealing with a human being - we cannot
make him/her a thing. When u can accept another as he or she comes,
and not as u want it to be or should be, u are going to see the
real person emerge. How to know if he loves u?- not how he treats u
is important, how he TREATS OTHERS, EG AN OLD MAN, A BEGGAR, A
STRANGER, ..... (add on what comes to ur mind) - if he is being
kind to others (egs, i cited above), compassionate, emphathetic,
considerate, then it is his nature. This is love that is inclusive,
love that excludes others and points to only one person is not love
- it is simply gravitating towards a ''contract" However, if he/she
is different to others, know that his/her stance towards u though
it may appear as love - is a bargain, in other words, i do this for
u, i m nice to u, - u have to return it the same way. The same goes
for u - are u indifferent to strangers, are u kind , are u
considerate, or ..... Anything in life is this - when one accepts
what is not, one is accepting! When u accept what u are not, u are
accepting of what u are. U see, what we think of ourselves is not
what we are, eg my holding a book cannot be assumed that I m
reading it. Only when i m reading it does it become real. My
talking about love, does not mean it is love, it is only real when
i m loving ( the process of loving, the process of being kind
....
