A thriving family is one that respects and protect each
other.
Your parents and older siblings are predators. It is easier to
take advantage of family members because we usually don't guard
against family as much as we guard against outsiders.
Some family members are simply not worth keeping. They can only
take advantage of you once.. but never again.
You are a mother and wife now, it is your job to protect your
children and husband from the rot of your past.
But hor, sista, family very hard to open mouth leh, especially
family business, sometime in private corporation, you can just
scold or yell at subordinates or superior, then walk off or F off,
but family cannot leh, end of the day, still need to dinner
together, so it is kind of awkward within family members to really
tell you the truth or what they think, some sibling keep problem
inside so long until one day...BOOMMM! kill the father or shoot
everyone down. Do not think family no need guards, it can be more
dangerous then you thought ya. Some people dun like to go home one
leh.
I believe each famlly also need to cultivate their own behavor
and culture, it should be more toward a jovial and relax kind of
culture, allow problem, allow mistake and alway be open and most
importantly, happy and humorous like me.