Carb
You made the decision, you knew the score.
You disregarded the facts, and went into this marriage with eyes
wide open.
You gotta face it, you will have a rocky life ahead of you.
You know the kind of man you willingly married. He gave you a
very clear indication early. You chose to marry him. You have to
make the adjustments, not him.
Don't expect the world to be namby pamby according to logic.
Your idea is: marraige what, both of us have the responsibility to
make it work. The others here would agree to that notion, but in
the real world it doesn't work that way. You can cry foul all you
want to, and have all your supporters back you up, but it is not
going to change the tone of you marriage. You have to practically
find that out now and make the adjustment.
As for mahjong, you must understand that there are rounds that
must be completed and that the four players get equal chance. So a
game ends when it ends and not at a pre-set time. And when another
round starts, it cannot abruptly end, it has to complete its
course. So cannot treat him like a kid, and get him to come home
like Cinderella.
You say you only ask him, he says you threatened him. This means
that you both have not understood each other well yet. You want to
modify him to suit you? You can only if you are strong and
domineering over him and he is submissive. I don't think that is
the case here.
So in the give and take equation, You give, He takes.
He must have some qualities that you find attractive, dwell on
that, build on that, he may come around.
Good luck.
PS. I hope you are just releasing your pent up frustrations
here.