What is complicating matters for u is that u are weighing the
pros and cons, and listeing too much to what others say (me
included) - let me repeat, there is no rite/wrong, all is relative.
go for beliefs that unlimit u, not hold on to beliefs , definitions
and customs , so on so forth, it was given to u, its not urs, what
u create out of u is always urs, what is given to u by others , may
stay, may change, then what happens?
No - what u do with urself or are being - that is
a process, what she does (or be) is her business, u
cannot change her with words, only ur beaviour with urself and for
yourself, mite work.
Whether she is going to be silly or clever or ... its her
choice, her responsibility, not yours, now u are being responsibe
for her , its killing u, please, understand this, if u are
willing to lose all - eg, house, money, ..... and feel free and it
is that what u really u want in your heart of hearts -
go for it, .... read my previous postings,
Ur wife, sadly, is bereft of love, she has needs, fears,
anxiety,(masquerading as love) and probably
feels unfulfilled and she is blaming u, if u were not around,
the next person would still face the same shit. Likewise, look at
urself, within u, are u blaming or .....
u came here on earth to be u, not to live for someone or
sacrifice to keep sth going, the wise would appreciate u for what u
are, accept u, and let u be, real love is the freeing of another,
of course, it presupposes one (the other) is also free
himself/herself. I m talking about being free on the INSIDE - free
of the conditioning of ....
Love is life, life is not. My sugeestion, if u want peace, the
heart has 'answers' that mite free u, provided u are willing to
risk all, the mind also has answers, but be wary of the 4 evils
that reside in ur subconsious lar
okay, i got it loud and clear now.
i don't care of the material lost if i can just be free from
this relationship.
you captured the core of my problems. somehow i feel responsible
of how she face the end of this relationship...and i don't know why
(probably the four evils - family, society, the priest, the
politician that's messing with my mind)
the other problem is how to make her acknowledge the problems
(of her denial, her insecurity) and seek help.....which again is
the above (feeling responsible for her). i think i own it to her to
at least somehow get her to acknowledge her problems and seek
help.
so, i identify the cause. strategically i know what i need to do
- overcome my own mental barrier, get her to seek help, leave her,
live my own life. i need a tactical action plan