Peace everyone.
Jay, i feel for you man. crap happens and your taking it in
nicely. thanks for sharing and expressing your problems here so
people can learn and also gain a thing or two.
I think between the sexes alot of problem can arise, endless lah
actually, miscomm etc, etc, etc except for the first part of the
relationship where everything the other party say is correct, then
married then downhill from there.
It hard but possible lah. I'm no expert lah. I fail also but
learn loh. if it means to fail a million time, marry a million
times to get to the right person worth it mah, and if your life
can't last you that long, at least your improving yourself with the
last person also not so bad.
Let's cut the crap...
For your case Jay, thankfully you got some good advices here. I
wish you all the best in the custody for your kids. Please consult
professional help on this matter and how you can increase your
chance with being/staying with your kids, by the looks of it, since
you willing to sacrifice everything i think u have a chance.
For your wife, let her be happy. Hard to swallow but, don't
dwell loh. Take time to reflect. Then move on (although i still
havent move on myself). Think more positively but concentrating on
the kids for now. This will occupy time to "forget her". ONE
IMPORTANT THING. forgive her. then forget. Singaporeans or anyone
for that matter, all forget then in turn forgive. Grow up and face
the hard knocks in life LAH! see her then be angry for what?
swallow and SMILE man. oh, sorry to say, i think u realised also,
very hard to woo her back.
For your children... hopefully u get them, if you don't.. they
will come find you one day. (worst case scenario) but i think if u
can visit them, that's good, build good relationship, close one.
then see them grow up. and if u win them, don't think u can be a
mother.. get a wife ya.. it maybe no no for u now, but common lah,
who don't want to marry somemore? companion for life man! Need
it!
you should take it slowly, a step at a time. i'm telling you,
you're doing good for now..
take care and love your kids well.
p.s: don't think its too late and not impt to LEARN how to be a
good parent. i know u might find it dumb and unnecessary but IF
your kids is your LIFEm then go learn thru courses/seminars and
anything that can make u a better dad and also will bring you
closer to them. INVEST in them loving you for eternity.
Peace Out.
