I had a very happy married life. 'Had' because I just found out
it's not as happy as I thought it was.
My husband has always been very attentive and sweet to me. He
still is. Everything remains the same as the day we got
married.
I've always trusted him 100% and never probed into any of
his matters. I have never gone through his stuff until
yesterday.... I know it's wrong to go through his smses but I had
this nagging feeling that I have to go through. Call it the woman's
6th sense... :'(
About 2 weeks ago while we were watching TV, a sms came in for
him and he replied. I casually glanced over as I was sitting beside
him but couldn't see what the message was about. He did it very
naturally but he had the phone tilted at an angle so I can't see
clearly but I thought it was a female name though I didn't catch
it. I didn't think too much about it till last week he left his
phone on table with the inbox open and walked away for a drink. I
happened to glance down and saw a msg that said something like "I
just came out of the shower. What are you doing?" It was a female
name. I didn't look through his phone then but it piqued my
curiousity because no female will ever tell a normal friend that
she just came out of the shower unless the guy is her boyfriend or
lover or husband.
I thought through this for a whole week if I should check his
phone or maybe I'm just over-reacting and being overly sensitive.
However, I fell to temptation yesterday when he was in the
shower.
Curiousity killed the cat :'( My hunch was right. The worse
thing is that it is not 1 but TWO different girls.
The smses were too 'hot' for them to be just normal friends. He
should just take a knife and stab it straight into my heart.
I've always trusted him wholeheartedly. I have been giving him
the cold shoulder the whole day. I don't know what to do. How to
react.
I want to confront him but at the same time he is treating me
the same as before. There was not a hint in his actions for me to
suspect.
Should I trash things out with him or just lie to myself and
pretend nothing happened since he is still the loving and good
husband in front of me.
Before I post anything, can you tell me how old are both your
husband and yourself?
Do you have any children?
How long were both of you married and living together?
(Including before marriage if cohabiting)
Although it is commonly advised by many here to trash things out
with your husband, but I will advise you to save your marriage
instead of destroying it....unless your husband has physically
abused you.
As women, we should have the maturity and confidence to confront
and assure our men that we knows what they have been fooling behind
our backs. But we should also have the power to overlook their
mistakes and infidelity and the ability to prick their conscience
by remaining calm and be even nicer to our men.
However if the men takes our kindness for granted and persists
in his own ways, then he will never be forgiven and you can
pack your bags and do the necessary to desex him, sue him, file for
divorce. Make sure you get well-rewarded for having to put up with
a bastard like him. 
