I am in love with a married woman. She told me that she love me
and is in a dilema. She do not know what to do.
I initate a clear break up thru sms but when we met up the
following days, we still ended up together as there are still
feelings for each other.
Can someone give me advice? What should I do? I am in love with
her and she know it. How can I: -
i) Make it even clearer to her that I wan her and be with her?
(this is to show her that I am true to her and is sincere)
ii) know that she wan to be with me too (since she say she is in
a dilema, i guess it should be me, the guy, to ensure her, however,
I wan to make sure she is not just wanting to be with me to escape
from her current relationship)
A relationship like this is frowned upon because cheating in a
marriage shows that vows weren't taken seriously. But I think you
know the stakes already. And my advice is, eventually love alone is
not enough. Takes a lot more than that to make a relationship or
marriage work.
If I were in your shoes, I'd reassure her of my feelings then
tell her unless she makes a clean break with her husband, it isn't
fair to both him and me. Then see what she does.
Maybe this is not the answer you want to hear but it sounds like
she's playing both sides of the fence while you're taking in all
the confusion. If you love her, then root for her and be there when
she finally makes a clean break from an unhappy marriage.
If you're simply happy in her company, then don't think so much,
don't demand a divorce from her. Forget all the heavy love problems
lah. Live for the moment because life is short.
Like RediAlertz, I think there's a very high chance she has no
intention of leaving the marriage. If she did she would've done so
long ago.
