Ok, wake up, now listen, enough of jokes and fun, now be
serious.
All of us have only one biological mother, that cannot be deny nor
change, as for spouses, it still can be change. I will like to
bring you to a mother perspective, since young, your mother had
loved you dearly, bring you up, gaive you education, provided all
the needs and cares for you as far as they could afford. No mother
in this world would like to see her son leaving her, she will alway
cherish and wish her son to be happily married, be a man of honor,
be a man who can guides his own family toward prosperity, healthy
and peace.
Next, as young, we must learn to understand the old pple mindset,
money, lavish eating or good living is not the most important
criteria in being filial piety, the togetherness, the love sharing,
the bonding is the ultimate needs of old pple, we shall all be old
one days, we shall have childrens of our own, the day will come
when he decided to leave you, what then do you think?, you have to
let him go, because you love him, but deep inside the old poor
soul, the cry of unheard sound alway wanted her son and daughter in
law to be with her, be together, be happy so as to enjoy her
twilight years to what she dream of when she borne you.
In our Asiatic value or oriental concept of family, most of the
chinese embraced confucianism, an idealogy that once a person is
upright, he then can take care of his parents, and with his parents
blessing, he gets married and built a perfect family, serve the
state and in turn the country. If all these is met, the society
shall prosperous in peace and harmony. Anything along the way that
cut off this system shall result in saddness and hurt thus
affecting anything down the system. We must uphold our family
Unity, it is our values that the west have found it hard to follow
and are trying to learn from it. Respect of yr elder and ancestor
is a respect of yourself, your own culture, your own upbringing and
your discipline in life.
Mom had brought you into this world, please take care of her.
Nagging and pestering as she can be, her heart is as pure as the
blue sky in loving you and your wife. SHe who love her son so much,
that she is willing to let him go and cry by herself in the lonely
dark corner of a empty house.
