TS,
While the advice on not trusting guys who will come back with HIV
and stuff like this are well-meaning, since you said you trust your
guy, I will take it that he is to be trusted.
In that case, perhaps one reason why your bf wants to go to Bangkok
with his friend is because he needs that personal space.
No doubt, he made a mistake by overlooking the fact that you really
love to be on holiday with him at this point, and the fact that you
have taken one whole month's holiday, and itching to go
somewhere.
Perhaps he doesn't know it means a lot to you for you to tour the
world with your loved one, that's him.
Back to the personal space thing, sometimes we guys do need total
time off, that is, time without having to worry about our gf's
concerns, comments, and moods.
When I was younger, I used to not really like my gf tagging me
along with outings with my guy friends, because somehow they found
it harder to talk to me, and I find it harder to give my full
attention in guy banter.
Occasionally, when other guys bring their gfs along, my gf will
find some reason not to be too happy at the other girls, often
rightly so, but it adds to the "pressure" of the situation, which
makes it a very dampening thing.
Sometimes all we guys want is a chill-out moment, talk crap
session, and I hope you realise that doesn't necessarily take away
the fact that he loves you.
Instead of being upset and angry at him, perhaps you need to talk
to him about his needs for personal space, as well as your
disappointment at being shortchanged this time around, so that he
doesn't make the same mistake next time around.
No guy is perfect from the start, therefore make your guy perfect
by telling him what your needs are in a non-offensive manner.
