Damn frustrated and confused.

last SG · 2007-09-14T01:34:57+00:00

We shared a lot. I've been to his place a couple of times, I know how he treats his family members. He knows mine. Gah, I really dont know. I understand that...

dumbdumb! SG

because what i feel is that, if he didn't want her to go, he shouldn't even have asked her if she wanted to go, thus putting the idea into her head.

its weird that he asked her if she wanted to go, then later ignore her and not answer her smses and leave her hanging etc without any confirmed planning.

but she was wrong when she threw a tantrum and insisted he take a cab down to meet her. but she was already full of frustration, it becomes a grey area already. i guess she reached her limit of patience.

and she was wrong to start hurling abuses at her bf.

i think all these problems can be solved with careful planning and sticking to a schedule.

these type of girls are great as friends la, but need careful handling as gfs.

hey, fgfm, what do you think? do you think that you were too much to start hurling abuses at your bf? and you're too princessy? and how? managed to make up with ur bf?

dumbdumb! SG

sorry to seem abit lost. but isn't it the girl who hurled vulgarities at him. and he didn't scold back?

Kyndred SG

Wahahaha....you just brought back so many memories with that one line...Good one. Razz

TS isn't ready for the complexities of a long lasting relationship yet...
But none of us start off with all the answers....so don't lose hope....

You'lll get there some day....and hopefully with the right guy.....

Good luck

dumbdumb! SG

I felt the guy could have done better planning and better communication. I felt that he could have been more sensitive in some situations, but I think he purposely was nonchalant just to get back at the girl for hurling abuses at him. The oversleeping part could have been avoided, but it was a minor issue.

I felt the girl was being really anal and acting like a princess. I understand that she was frustrated with waiting alone at Orchard, but there're plenty of things she could have done while waiting for the boyfriend. Go Borders, read a book, go grab a bite, or do window shopping. I felt the girl was not matured or independant.

another thing, both are in the relationship for 2 years, its more than enough time to find compromises and know each other's bad points

So what do you guys think?

also, i wonder what was that hobby? otaku? Very Happy

dumbdumb! SG

who's TS?

dahliamorie SG

i see myself in you. i can understand how you feel. i can imagine your frustration when you're out at orchard alone and instead of easing your frustration, your boyfriend isn't doing anything to help you.

i don't think the relationship is working out anymore. both of you have broken up a few times already and it shows that the r/s probably isn't so important to both of you anymore.

during the last few times of breaking up and patching, have you both thought about what was the problem? understanding or trust or what?

think about it this time round and let your thoughts of it be known to him and see what he says. if it's time to let go, let go. there's no point clinching onto a relationship that is painful and torturous. it's not happy at all.

and reflect about your temper and behaviour.

InnoHippo SG

nice advice Cool

RedizAlertz SG

We are not u, therefore we are unable to give the best advise simply from ur side of the story. But since u hav oready started this thread, allow me to give my point of view.

From ur post, I hav find u being a spoilt princess. Hopefully, I am wrong abt tat.

U hav mentioned tat both of u hav broke up & patched back a couple of times & back to being lovey-dovey.. + u also mentioned tat u believe he still love u bocs of wat he said. My question is, do u REALLY believe tat?

Do ur patchin up after the breaks is bcos tat both of u REALLY like each other alot OR u hav been to used to each other's company tat leads to being somewhat lonely when broken up??

If it's the former, y do u still initiate break up over such minor issues??
If it's the latter, y do u still wanna break up??

Ok, then we take it as he somehow abused u, be it verbally or physically, WHY do u still hopin to patch back with him??? (note: the underlined sentence)

For tis, i hav no advice to give neither will i sympathise. Cos it's pointless.
U need to sort tis out urself. Since u r oready confused, by goin thru all advises over here will onli make u even more confused.

Best of luck.

Deportivo SG

Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????

Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????

Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????

Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????

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dumbdumb! SG

where u read that he abused her?

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Originally posted by Deportivo:

[b]Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????

Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????

Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????

Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????

[/b]

Laughing

RedizAlertz SG

Originally posted by jojobeach:
Fgfm,

Girl, you will initiate the breakup.
But you don't take initiative in this relationship.

7. [b]After you hurled vulgarities at him, do you seriously expect him to be all nice and lovey with his replies to you? Geesh girl, if your boyfriend slap you, will you kiss him back ?

[/b]

Originally posted by fgfm:

7.) [b]Well..When he's angry he does the same to me.

Last but not least. Yeah, maybe he doesnt enjoy my company. And he painstakingly stuck with me for more than 2 years. Maybe. [/b]

Originally posted by jojobeach:
Guys,

TS's boyfriend use vulgarities on girl.
[b]And if I didn't read wrongly, he also slaps her when he is angry with her.

[/b]

Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

[b]Yes. He used vulgarities on her. I feel that no matter what, guy should not use vulgarities on girls.

No. She didn't he slap her.

[/b]

Originally posted by RedizAlertz:

Ok, then we take it as he somehow abused u, be it [b]verbally or physically, WHY do u still hopin to patch back with him??? (note: the underlined sentence)

For tis, i hav no advice to give neither will i sympathise. Cos it's pointless.
U need to sort tis out urself. Since u r oready confused, by goin thru all advises over here will onli make u even more confused.

Best of luck.[/b]

There.

fgfm SG

Yea. I believe you understood how I felt. I knew I was too much by hurling abuses at him. But its like really common for us when we are angry. I am not exactly princessy. Its just so-not-me to stay at Orchard alone, moreover its like evening? So crowded. If it was morning, I might go over to his house. I havent talk to him at all.

fgfm SG

I had never treated him like a dog. Its not like I demand things from him and make him serve me all the time. I am just hurt. Maybe I do demand things from him at times, but that is mostly when he makes me angry. Like oversleeping when I already told him my tuition ended at 3pm. Moreover, its isnt the first time this thing has happened. As in him oversleeping.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

Yes. He used vulgarities on her. I feel that no matter what, guy should not use vulgarities on girls.

No. She didn't say he slap her.

edit:typo

Originally posted by RedizAlertz:

Ok, then we take it as he somehow abused u, be it [b]verbally or physically, WHY do u still hopin to patch back with him??? (note: the underlined sentence)

For tis, i hav no advice to give neither will i sympathise. Cos it's pointless.
U need to sort tis out urself. Since u r oready confused, by goin thru all advises over here will onli make u even more confused.

Best of luck.[/quote]

Why are you quoting yourself?

There. Rolling Eyes

fgfm SG

No lah. He doesnt slap me -.-...

yiha093 SG

that means
U slap him rite Rolling Eyes
sumhow, sumhow, i think ur expections of him have changed
get it?
tihnk bout the past....
anyway anyway
i dunoe wad i were do if i were TS bf
haha

Darkness_hacker99 SG

That doesn't mean she slap him.

yiha093 SG

she say he doesnt slap her
then who?
this is between the 2 of them
so if not guy = gal?

dumbdumb! SG

i respect the fact that you were understanding as to not throw a fit when he didn't reply your messages because he was asleep or he might have went out.

you were very nice to have given him his personal space, and you tried to be understanding.

but i think it wasn't right that you want him to spend less time with his hobby (which we are all curious to what that hobby is), so that he can spend more time with you. i think you shouldn't have expected that.

i feel you should have been a little more independant and not throw a tantrum and insist that he take a cab down to meet you. its not cheap and the money can be better spent elsewhere. you could have gone to borders to read a book and chill out. that way he wouldn't have been upset and be nonchalant and curt towards you. i feel that you deserved it la, in a way.

you both have been in the relationship for 2 years, you should know his pattern and habits by now, and he should have known your pattern and habits too. if you know that he's going to oversleep and be late etc, then you both should have come up with a plan to overcome it.

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