Originally posted by Devil1976:
PS. I PERSONALLY [b]DISAGREE with what some of the
forumites have mentioned about this guy not being sincere and all
that... I think it'll simply be too early to tell, and surface to
deduce at this point... Though they might be right about their
'guess', I would also like to think there's a chance that this guy
is genuinely not sure or having emotional baggage... That might
render him less suitable to go into a relationship at this point,
but not enough to condemn him nor to go on a personality attack on
him.[/b]
We are in no position to tell whether he is insincere or
sincere, player or non-player, genuinely hurt and suffering from a
rebound or not.
But the fact is that a good guy suffering from the after-effects of
a broken relationship and knows that there is this particular girl
e.g. TS, who likes him should
1) not hang carrots for the girl to stay close to him and "wait and
see"
2) not reap the rewards of companionship, dates, and intimacy while
"still deciding"
For the simple reason that it might hurt the girl.
Sure, it might please the girl (and himself) in the short term, but
if things don't work out, the girl is bound to be hit hard.
And the roles can be reversed too in the above text.
There is such a status as "platonic friends with mutual
acknowledged liking but no promises". The yardstick is that TS can
go out with other guys without having to report to that guy.
