Confessions of a Cheap Guy

last SG · 2007-01-23T15:29:05+00:00

7 years is a long time to be together. But if you are not sure of yourself and commitment, then you should break up for a while. From what I have seen, thos...

blu_sky SG

how is one goin to find out a state of mind? his liking for her is a state of mind, which even that gal if not aware, and they had done nothing (not even holding hands). how is the girlfriend goin to discover this if not for his confession?

mystee SG

i believe they sms, talk on the phone, went out... think this are enough to discover sooner or later. furthermore he did mentioned that his gf find something amiss in their relationship. Guys are never good at hiding secrets. the gulitness in his eyes tells everything. Never underestimate women initution.

blu_sky SG

honestly, in this case, what is there to discover from sms or even if the phones were dubbed and videos were taken?

mystee SG

i m not sure about others.. but for me, i cant stand my partner hide and lies to me. he has his freedom to know other gals, no problem to that. but i will like to know who are his friends. If a guy is obviously hiding /lying something about other gals from his gf, highly likely, his heart is swaying. thou' they may not have done anything wrong. but which gals can stand their bf having an interest in others?

smudgey SG

hmmm....

actually although it hurted to hear it, and i cried hearing it....

I'm glad he told me.

cos to me honesty is the best policy.... and i was glad to know that i could trust him to tell me something that most guys would keep from their gf....

thickskin23 SG

Thanks alot for all your advice, i feel glad that i do not have to coop it all up inside my heart. I will get it out of my system and will prevent any first warning signs. I am just relieve that i settle this in the early stage as i knew my gf is always there for me.

I doubt i will tell her the truth but deep inside i knew a scar (black mark) is always there. Thank you all so much

mystee SG

agree with you. trust is the one of the most impt factor in a relationship.

blu_sky SG

That brings me to another thought. Would you like to be the 'protected' girlfriend whom your bf absolutely adores and want to protect, or would you like to be the one whom he shares everything with, including things and thoughts of his that hurt you?

choco B SG

If you are "still trying" I suggest you get that other girl out of your system first before you think about whether to tell your girlfriend.

smudgey SG

Yup, I MAY be able to forgive my guy if he cheated....

but I'll never be able to forgive my guy if he cheated AND LIED to cover up.

i Believe a balance must be established here....

but i prefer more of the latter than the first....

but that is just me.

mystee SG

101% Agree! We have the same mind ya..

thickskin23 SG

Its hard to get over just like that, apparently my whole life had changed for the past 2 weeks. I dare not to sleep at night, i find myself attracted to crowded places as i dun want to think about both her and my gf.

I refrain myself from using the computer as i dun want to see "her" name in msn and the fear of knowing that she "block" my name just to avoid me.

The worst thing is my gf is busy rushing a work project that she had no time for me even though i insist i can wait for her to knock off from work. I try fetching her from work but after a few times she just said she prefer to meet me once a week till her project is finished.

smudgey SG

hehehe ya lor

^5 Laughing

blu_sky SG

Have you ever had any crush or infatuation before?

mystee SG

seriously duno y u fear knowing she "block" u.. since u have aldy decided? and shldnt u delete her in your msn?

If you cant made up ur mind, you may just end up with none...

blu_sky SG

Balance. when one demand even to know a state of mind (note: no action has been taken to betray. in fact, prompt action has been taken to rectify the situation), is that still called a balance?

thickskin23 SG

I admit it may appear like a crush but chatting with her on msn is what i been doing for the past month. I am now doing all the things i could to forget this foolish act but please understand i need time to get over it.

Right now i am just lucky that i had a gf who loves a whole lot more than i love her and i hope i will do watever i can to fill up that gap.

blu_sky SG

of course she might have blocked you! you tell people you toyed with her feelings, and you still expect her not to block you? Rolling Eyes

i wouldnt be surprised if she had blocked and deleted.

rainee SG

hmm I think it is cos you feel like you are being neglected by ur gf that your mind keeps straying to think about the other girl in your life?

mystee SG

the word "balance" is from your question to smudey.. that i m 100% agree to. <'protected' girlfriend whom your bf absolutely adores and want to protect, or would you like to be the one whom he shares everything with, including things and thoughts of his that hurt you?> Who dont like to be adores and protected? but in a relationship, to me, trust is most impt, hence i agree to her saying the latter one is more impt, if i have to choose one only.

Another thing is... "swaying of heart" to me... is aldy a kind of betray....

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