Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Vampire Mode:
On
I don't know if you
are oblivion to the fact that you are just a mere substitute for
her ex. In her world, you represent no unique character as a lover,
apart from acting as a double for her ex when situations get fiery
between them. Actually I think you do, remotely, thought about that
possibility, but somehow it didn't really register inside
you.
Every scenario you have posted has something to do with her ex;
doesn't it reinforce the fact about this substitute thingy being a
reality? All those 'good thingy' you have tried so hard to appease
her... basically are the 'standards' her ex-boyfriend would have
been, if he was in your shoes. You are living according to HIS
STANDARD and not the real you. In fact, [b]I would not be surprised if she
were to look at you and the image of her ex appeared at the back of
her head.
Why would you want to live in someone elses shadow and stand
forever beneath him?
Cheer her up when she is angry? Even if she is irrational? What
kind of fcuk is this? And you actually thought that the problem is
you not being humorous enough when she is moody?
Just in case you still didn't know what I wanted to convey;
all along, this
has been a two player game and your addition is
extraneous. This melancholy drama taking place
between the woman and her ex has no place for your existence in the
first place. You may have fallen in love with her, but apparently
the feelings may not be mutual.
If you are telling me that the arguments between them is because
her ex refuse to let her move on in life, then by all means go and
fcuk her ex or educate her to ignore him for life. But chances are,
when you were to confront her ex for making her miserable, you will
probably be deemed as the 'trouble-maker' and she screaming the
hell of out you as she goes into his embrace and apologising to her
ex.
I don't understand why would you prefer to play somebody's role other
than yourself in this game of love.
I think if this is not enough to wake you up, than continue to
allow her to leech you emotionally. When she had enough, you will
be thrown away, like anything else in life. Maybe then you would
understand the essence of this post 
Cheers [/b]
first of all, thanks for your reply. you seems professional..
haha
I'm not trying to act as a double of her ex, infact i treat all my
gf the same way.. i'm not asking anything in return, i just want
them to be happy. Being with her now is a pain, tolerating her
anger.. I'm a victim of love, maybe i am blinded.. love is to be
played, but not being played by love.. I lost control of this
relationship eversince she shown me temper..
I dunno why she keep calling me on the phone, it is because of her
boredom? or it is that she needs a free counsellor? or someone to
keep her entertained? I dunno the cause.. or maybe she really wants
to talk to me so that she can forget about her ex... I'm always so
confused.. so senstive about things happening around. She is not
giving me faith, no confidence, no encouragement.. Maybe I should
make a step back.. draw myself away from this tigress?
Like wat i said earlier, love need time to heal.. give ourself some
space to heal.. should i break off with her? or should i stay on,
but reduce my commitments on her? I'm on a desperate measures that
I might lose her in any seconds..
How to make this relationship possible? I don't want to be her
substitute of her ex anymore..
