drx: my problem is not whether you are childish hence your post
is childish or not. I understand where you're coming from and your
logic of reasoning.
You have stated your point and i shall cease my arguement after
this post. But there are still more to say, i suggest we better
pour it all out than to leave it dangling.
In matters of the heart;
There is no such thing as right solution. But only the BEST
solution.
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My respond to the way of DECLARATION(as highlighted) is uncalled
for.
This guy must really really be a pest and no brainer for such a
method.
Originally posted by drx:
[In respond to drx's last para - It IS a(one of the) solution.]
But if there is such a need for such way of rejecting a person. I
would endorse. But for this, i cannot.
Because i am a person who believes in everything done, it should be
gracious to oneself and to another.
If milktea goes out with him together with a grp of
friends. He pestered milktea, she got very pressured and frustrated
of him. She declared to him: 'I don't like you, leave me
alone'
All her friends witnessed it.
I will support her!!! Because she did that out of frustration and
suffocation.
However, again i will say. She should have just be firm and cut all
strings off in private.
If milktea was to plan a day where all her friends and him were to
go for a group outing, milktea have in mind that she's going to do
it infront of her friends.
Then i do not endorse it. It is disrespecting another person's
feelings
Same method of execution
BUT different motivation
He have the choice to fall in love. She have the power to decide
on acceptance or not.
His feelings for her is personal. It is a disrespect to declare
rejection of his Personal feelings onto in front of
friends/public.
My answer to your question: A guy/girl will lose a certain part of
confidence if he/she is sane and normal.
It will regard to this as a failure or a courtship and might have a
difficult time recovering.
To me these are called bad experience, etching onto the hall of
failure in their list.
About Guy not succeeding in courtship cos they are scared of
rejection in front of friends
--- Ha. That i'll leave it to you to answer. (Read last para)
Call him weak or whatsoever.
But if one(milktea) can spare a life, one
should.
Yes I can imagine, so am I rite to say that a girl must say yes to
a guy if he say
"I love you" in the public? In order to
protect the guy's self confidence? If the girl does not love or
like him she must do it against her will to protect
him?
Wow next time I must go to any pretty lady and confess I love her,
she will not reject me cos she is afarid I will lose my self
esteem.
You're taking it onto another extreme. You shouldn't take one
example of mine and apply to all scenarios.
I haven't said anything about protecting him.
She does not have to protect him. If fact in this scenario. She
willhave all the
right to reject him, why?
Guy ask the girl in the public.
His personal feelings has been made known to the public.
It is in Girl's power of decision to act accordingly, Yes or
no.
When girl rejects guy, she have the right to do so, because she is
being brought to give an answer in the public.
Self esteem? The guy brought it to
himself. HE CHOOSE that opportunity and he should face the
consequences.
My reason against support your method is ::: Will you
want another person(girl) to Declare her rejection onto you in the
public? I hope in my life i wouldn't face such method.
I'm sure you do not want to have to experience it.
Whatever slapping method or hurling insult or kiss the next guy or
any worse methods.
It started between two person, let it end between two person.
Again, if it is possible for one to graciously spare, one
should.
Do not do onto others if you do not want others to do onto
you.
Cheers
[quote]Originally posted by nonameleft:
To nonameleft: I don't mind being called a hypocrite because i
am clear that i do not wish to encounter such instance of Being
rejected in front of my friends and public that the girl i
love/crush/attracted to does not love me.
I am clear to myself that
- there are times i was rushing into the bus even though i see many
adults behind me.
- there are times when i sat in the train, and i missed elderly
people out because i'm engrossed into reading a magazine or
book.
- there are times when i put two dollars into a donation tin and
tot i did great!
- there are times i called a long lost friend just for a
favour.
Yup. I honestly say, i am a hypocrite.
Cheers
You can live a life of righteous
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To Milktea: BE firm and do what you have to do.
All the best.
