This is a classic example of a relationship that has
lost the soul of one: namely, the absence of a healthy life OUTSIDE
the life of the relationship. Do you truely think that a
relationship could survive on LOVE itself and deprive it from other
components, which you thought that love is exclusive and other
thingy have no connection to it?
This scenario should violently wake you up. (Or at least my coming
words should)
No woman would want their man to survive on them, leeching them
emotionally. People are telling you that you gave your world to her
and that's so loving, you are an item everyone did envied, blar
blar blar; I am telling you that your love meant nothing ultimately
- what you have done equates to nothing. Loving? Then why is this
relationship failing despite the effort put?
You will probably realise by now: You can give the whole damn WORLD
to her, like you have mentioned, however what happens in reality is
that, is she seeking for the WORLD or rather, your GIVEN world?
Kinda like trying to sell electronic products and advertise
massively in unrelated-non target market channels like fitness
magazine. Who in the world would be motivate to buy your products?
Sure there will be customers, but it will make up less than 10
percent of your sales. Sergio Xyman Unorthodox marketing theory
states that generating awareness doesn't guarantee sales -
Unorthodox CloUdiSm states that efforts in love doesn't guarantee
desired result.
Interestingly, you said you have never restricted her, but that's
in your own dictionary. Reality speaking, you did. Restricted her
as in she has to comform herself into having ZERO lifestyle outside
her BGR. (This subconscious change is a psychological influence
from you. A simple way to explain this is when we stick around with
negative people, we will gradually be influenced into such
mindsets, vice vista).
It's NOT her, neither it's something she wished to become.
The reasons she gave to leave the relationship are symptoms of your
wrapped personality in love. The real underlying truth is that YOU
had became someone completely different from what she has expected
in the first place, something that your love has transformed
yourself into. 'It's still you, but not you anymore.'
Seriously speaking, chances are, you wouldn't be able to reconcile.
So you can drop the option of waiting or trying to get her back.
You can resist the idea of trying to get a life, but eventually
circumstances will force you to. Your karmic pattern will repeat
itself again and again and again and again, until you gain the
wisdom to realise what went wrong in your attitude towards BGR from
this post.
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One conclusion made by my brother is that... She is not worth it..
You put in so much and she simply left you, w/o even
hesitating..
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That's old school and is usually advice given by people with simple
intention of trying to console. I will tell you that: Her departure
HAS a cosmic lesson attached to it - the ugliness in your
personality towards BGR. If it's not mend, you could either repeat
what you have went through, or end up with an unhealthy
relationship with both party sucking emotional vitae out of one
another. And you would probably experience this thing called 'BGR
ceiling' as stated in CloUdiSm. (Explaination would be another
topic altogether)
P.S: Improve or perish from impoverishment.
Cheers
This is a classic example of a relationship that has lost the soul
of one: namely, the absence of a healthy life OUTSIDE the life of
the relationship. Do you truely think that a relationship could
survive on LOVE itself and deprive it from other components, which
you thought that love is exclusive and other thingy have no
connection to it?
This scenario should violently wake you up. (Or at least my coming
words should)
No woman would want their man to survive on them, leeching them
emotionally. People are telling you that you gave your world to her
and that's so loving, you are an item everyone did envied, blar
blar blar; I am telling you that your love meant nothing ultimately
- what you have done equates to nothing. Loving? Then why is this
relationship failing despite the effort put?
You will probably realise by now: You can give the whole damn WORLD
to her, like you have mentioned, however what happens in reality is
that, is she seeking for the WORLD or rather, your GIVEN world?
Kinda like trying to sell electronic products and advertise
massively in unrelated-non target market channels like fitness
magazine. Who in the world would be motivate to buy your products?
Sure there will be customers, but it will make up less than 10
percent of your sales. Sergio Xyman Unorthodox marketing theory
states that generating awareness doesn't guarantee sales -
Unorthodox CloUdiSm states that efforts in love doesn't guarantee
desired result.
Interestingly, you said you have never restricted her, but that's
in your own dictionary. Reality speaking, you did. Restricted her
as in she has to comform herself into having ZERO lifestyle outside
her BGR. (This subconscious change is a psychological influence
from you. A simple way to explain this is when we stick around with
negative people, we will gradually be influenced into such
mindsets, vice vista).
It's NOT her, neither it's something she wished to become.
The reasons she gave to leave the relationship are symptoms of your
wrapped personality in love. The real underlying truth is that YOU
had became someone completely different from what she has expected
in the first place, something that your love has transformed
yourself into. 'It's still you, but not you anymore.'
Seriously speaking, chances are, you wouldn't be able to reconcile.
So you can drop the option of waiting or trying to get her back.
You can resist the idea of trying to get a life, but eventually
circumstances will force you to. Your karmic pattern will repeat
itself again and again and again and again, until you gain the
wisdom to realise what went wrong in your attitude towards BGR from
this post.
quote:
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
One conclusion made by my brother is that... She is not worth it..
You put in so much and she simply left you, w/o even
hesitating..
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
That's old school and is usually advice given by people with simple
intention of trying to console. I will tell you that: Her departure
HAS a cosmic lesson attached to it - the ugliness in your
personality towards BGR. If it's not mend, you could either repeat
what you have went through, or end up with an unhealthy
relationship with both party sucking emotional vitae out of one
another. And you would probably experience this thing called 'BGR
ceiling' as stated in CloUdiSm. (Explaination would be another
topic altogether)
P.S: Improve or perish from impoverishment.
Cheers
Cmon man.. its just a break up. you make me sound like some freak
man....
Break up means break up....
Thanks carpe diem jur for your advice.... no worries.... I will be
able to recover.
I have thought back and learnt from my wrong doings liao....
But I truly believe a breaking up doesnt necessarily have to be my
fault only..
She might have her part of wrong doing also... Just dont wanna make
things uglier....
I hav learnt and understand myself...... Though i know that she
will never come back... But i still pray hard for her exams.......
hope she passes it.
Hopefully she decideds to gimme a chance and let me prove
myself.....
Once again.... thanks for all the advice.. especially from
carpe...
cheers!
